I have her permission to tell you this: my 16-year-old
daughter is not the smartest kid in her class.
She says so herself. When her peers tell her, "You're so smart," she usually responds, "No, I'm not. I'm just organized, and I work hard."
Oh, but our Lydia is loving and
lovely, and her dad and I are crazy about her. And we are so grateful she has a capable, healthy mind and that she is motivated to work hard. We take neither her mind nor her motivation for granted.
But our first-born does not score in the highest percentiles
on standardized exams. She won’t be getting a 2000 on the SAT. We didn't need
to have her take the entrance test to know she would not have been accepted
into our area’s accelerated math and science program. (Which is fine, because she detests math and science.) She struggles to figure
out sales tax without a calculator. She needed a tutor to get through geometry.
She will not be the valedictorian or
salutatorian on graduation day. She doesn't particularly like school. I suspect her IQ is average.
And yet: heading into her junior year in high school, and after carrying her toughest academic load yet, she’s holding
onto a 4.0 GPA. She’s been Student of the Month several times and was recently inducted into National Honor Society. When teachers tell students to work with a partner,
Lydia’s classmates ask for her. In band, she’s first-chair clarinet, marching band section leader, and a repeat honor’s ensemble participant. She takes five dance classes a week and in her
spare time leads kids’ small-group time and summer camp workshops at church.
I’m not saying all this to brag about her. (Really!) And to parents
who might be thinking, “Big deal! You should hear what my kid does!” I
earnestly say, “Congratulations! You
must be so proud!“
I’m sharing Lydia's story because I’ve noticed five habits she's chosen to hone that could help other average-minded
students succeed—both in school and out of it.
This isn't about a GPA or a list of achievements. This is just about what has worked for my daughter. Maybe one or more of these habits will work for your student, too.
1. Review. Practice.
Repeat. “Practice makes perfect”? I don't think so. I’ve
watched Lydia study algebra and listened to her play the clarinet and snuck
glances at her rehearsing dances, and in most cases, what practice actually
seems to make is possible.
Lydia reviews study notes again and again. She goes over dances in our living room so often that her father and I hardly ever get to spend any time in there. She practices her clarinet solos over and over until even I have every note memorized.
Still, she's never perfect when she takes the test or plays the song or performs the dance. There's always something that could be better. But her practice usually makes it possible for her to get the grade or the rating or the performance she's after.
She's learned that practice is stronger than nerves. Lydia is almost always nerved-up before a test or competition or performance, but all those reviews and repetitions train her mind and fingers and legs to do what needs to be done, in spite of butterflies in her stomach.
Smart students set themselves up for success by redoing,
rehearsing, and rehashing—and then doing it all again. That old “I work best under pressure” claim? Most successful learners recognize a veiled excuse for
procrastinating when they see it and have figured out that repeated exposure
to material—scales or scientific formulas or whatever—spread out over time is what really gets the job done.
High achievers also know they cannot only rely on learning
in the classroom or dance studio or on the athletic field; they have to review,
practice, and repeat on their own. When the owner of Lydia’s dance studio announced
the scholarship award Lydia would eventually receive, she first described the
recipient without naming her name. My daughter didn't know in advance that she'd won the award, but as soon as her teacher said "she practices all the time
at home,” Lydia knew preparation had made her dream possible.
2. Make tools
accessible. At the end of the last school year, there were biology final exam review sheets
taped up all over our house. If I'd wanted to, I could have learned about passive transport
while I was
brushing my teeth. (I didn't want to, BTW.) On weekends, Lydia’s clarinet is usually assembled and perched on its stand in
our formal dining room-cum-music room. In her bedroom, various piles of papers,
books, and other materials are strategically scattered all over the place.
Smart students eliminate obstacles to doing what they need
to do. If Lydia’s clarinet is hidden away in her case (or, worse, left in her band
locker at school), she’s a lot less likely to practice than if all she
has to do is pull her instrument off the stand, stick it in her mouth, and
play. And those biology review sheets decorating my bathroom wall? One-stop
shopping for exam prep and dental hygiene.
3. Rotate subjects,
strategies, and settings. Trying to cram one
subject for long stretches is not the most productive way to
truly learn a thing, and savvy students know it.
Lydia’s studying, practicing, and free time away from school usually looked something like this last year:
Mixing up environment,
tools, methods, and activities helps learning take hold. Dancing releases
stress and clears Lydia's mind for further memorization. Pizza with family
boosts the feel-good chemicals in her brain, so everything else work
better. And while she sleeps, the problems my daughter has solved, the vocab she has
memorized, and the scales she has practiced get mentally filed away for future
recall.
4. Get creative with time
management. Lydia’s time is crunched (whose isn't?), so she’s gotten really good at maximizing
her waking hours. She loads review sheets into plastic storage bags for shower
study sessions. She does balance and core-building exercises while she brushes
her teeth. She listens to required reading on audio books while she figures out
what she’s wearing for the week. All this doubled-up effort leaves her a little
time for mindless TV and sleeping in on weekends—both of which play their own
part in her success.
5. While you’re eking
out the little picture, keep the big picture in mind. (Or, make the choice to do what you have to do today so that tomorrow you might have the choice to do
what you want to do.) When my daughter gets bogged down in the minutiae of high
school required classes and course credits, I encourage her to keep her mind’s
eye on what she wants to do someday.
Besides music, Lydia loves working with preschool–age kids. Area community colleges offer programs in her field, and on a
different note (literally), she found out that if she attends a
particular community college, she can enroll as a guest student in the marching band of a local university. It's possible that only a couple years
down the road, my daughter could spend her days alternating between getting a
degree in early childhood education, working at a preschool, and playing her
clarinet in an esteemed marching band. All of which she would love.
But to get to that point, Lydia, like most good students,
has to muddle through formulas for respiration and quadratic equations and
research papers. In the middle of this
muddling, she reminds herself that doing what she has to do now—and doing
it well—is setting her up to be able to do what she enjoys down the road.
I sometimes wish my daughter had been gifted with a genius-level IQ that might make learning come easily. But most of the time, I’m
thankful she's had to work hard to achieve success. She couldn't choose the mind
she was born with, but she does have the power to choose how she
uses the mind she has. In the future Lydia is building for herself, she’ll
certainly have to keep working diligently. But because of the habits she’s practicing
now, I think she’ll know what to do and how to do it well.
And the hope of
witnessing my daughter succeeding at something she loves is more valuable to me
than an off-the-charts SAT score any day.
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