tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post806672122198949779..comments2024-03-28T03:15:22.942-04:00Comments on Guilty Chocoholic Mama: 5 Reasons Moms Shouldn't Feel Guilty About "Alone Time"Elizabeth Spencerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14323422138353699587noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-3383491391769933142016-03-30T05:23:23.495-04:002016-03-30T05:23:23.495-04:00Aw, thank you, Suzi! I know moms have plenty of re...Aw, thank you, Suzi! I know moms have plenty of reasons we can feel guilty for, oh, EVERYTHING, but sometimes I think we (and by "we," I mean "me") turn that guilt into a badge of honor...almost something to brag about. But I truly believe God gives wisdom to moms to make right decisions, and when He does we should make them and then be thankful about it! :) Thanks so much for stopping by...I hope to connect more with you soon and to put into practice much more of your excellent advice!Elizabeth Spencerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14323422138353699587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-41432570896820983362016-03-29T22:40:06.122-04:002016-03-29T22:40:06.122-04:00Loved how you brought the example of Jesus into th...Loved how you brought the example of Jesus into this. Being alone to recharge is necessary. Thank you Elizabeth for the reminder not to feel guilty about everything. :)Start a Mom Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08860051502881631566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-39061939960968117902016-02-11T16:27:04.770-05:002016-02-11T16:27:04.770-05:00Heehee, Morgan...well, better late than never, rig...Heehee, Morgan...well, better late than never, right? ;) I am utterly convinced that time away from the people we love and care for so much makes the time we're with them more lovely and loving. But you are right: our current culture does seem to counsel moms that we should not only be with our kiddos every minute, but that we should WANT to be with them every second. Here again, you can only pour out so much before you've got be refilled. Which is good for everyone. Thanks so much for taking time to stop by! Blessings on your new baby and life as a mom of two! :)Elizabeth Spencerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14323422138353699587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-60653949470771632042016-02-11T16:22:50.567-05:002016-02-11T16:22:50.567-05:00Thank you, Jennifer! It is true that we moms gener...Thank you, Jennifer! It is true that we moms generally have no shortage of materials for the guilty files, but I truly believe enjoying some time to ourselves should not be part of that mix. In this case, what's good for us is good for our people, too! ;) Thank you for so graciously hosting the #SHINEbloghop!Elizabeth Spencerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14323422138353699587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-63985349169563385302016-02-11T15:07:28.353-05:002016-02-11T15:07:28.353-05:00This is so perfect! I'm just finally starting ...This is so perfect! I'm just finally starting to realize that I actually enjoy time away form my 20 month son (of course, 1.5 months from when baby #2 comes!) I think it's hard to appreciate that especially in a world where mom's are expected to want to be with their kiddos 24/7Morgan @ Morgan Manages Mommyhoodhttp://morganmanagesmommyhood.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-6158157601744859842016-02-11T14:16:33.304-05:002016-02-11T14:16:33.304-05:00Oooh, I love this! So often I feel guilty about th...Oooh, I love this! So often I feel guilty about the time I take for myself but it's so important to our health and well-being!<br /><br />Thanks for sharing (and for linking up to the #SHINEbloghop).<br /><br />Wishing you a lovely day.<br />xoxoAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09231196028453953524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-26700859501373685162015-10-24T07:53:50.675-04:002015-10-24T07:53:50.675-04:00Oh, yes, Catherine, that cherished hobby of, you n...Oh, yes, Catherine, that cherished hobby of, you now, showering! Love it! ;) But you are right: a season for everything...maybe with some flute-playing or scrapbooking added to the mix sometime? Thanks so much for stopping by and for your kind and encouraging comments.Elizabeth Spencerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14323422138353699587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-22798285246252931782015-10-23T13:32:12.513-04:002015-10-23T13:32:12.513-04:00Awesome post! I may not feel guilty about taking t...Awesome post! I may not feel guilty about taking time for myself, but I agree with Jamie above about just not being into things like I use to. When I get time alone now, instead of scrapbooking or playing my flute, I tend to catch up on my girly shows, surf the net, and shower, lol. I still get that space which is much needed but sometimes wish I enjoyed the flute or scrapbooking as much as I use to. Each season of life brings about new pleasures, I guess, and for this season it's girly shows. :)Catherinehttp://faithfilledchaos.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-41219891095904819182015-10-22T16:00:06.793-04:002015-10-22T16:00:06.793-04:00Oh my goodness...thank you so much! What a lovely ...Oh my goodness...thank you so much! What a lovely surprise for my Thursday morning. Keep working on that guilt, mama (and this is coming from someone who goes on record every day as being a guilty mama!). Your time alone is good for you AND for the people you love so much! :) Thank you again...I love the #ThisIsHowWeRoll Link Party!Elizabeth Spencerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14323422138353699587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-58544115253774599512015-10-22T09:32:11.618-04:002015-10-22T09:32:11.618-04:00I still feel guilty, but I'm working on it. Yo...I still feel guilty, but I'm working on it. You've given me five great points to think about. Congrats, you're featured this week at the #ThisIsHowWeRoll Link Party on Organized 31.Susan@Organized31https://www.blogger.com/profile/09722165408374953902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-67315777649711237412015-10-19T06:40:15.553-04:002015-10-19T06:40:15.553-04:00Hahaha...thank you, Holly! I'm glad my little ...Hahaha...thank you, Holly! I'm glad my little list made sense to someone other than me! :) I love how you describe it: our "focus gets re-focused." Brilliant. Thanks so much for stopping by...and for hosting Waiting on...Wednesday!Elizabeth Spencerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14323422138353699587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-31620173429829271362015-10-18T23:51:55.351-04:002015-10-18T23:51:55.351-04:00I couldn't agree with this more if I tried! I...I couldn't agree with this more if I tried! I use to feel guilty about how I felt when I was alone. I craved that time and felt bad that I looked forward to it so much. But, like you mentioned - good things in, good things out. We all need that time to recharge and I always appreciated my family much, much more after a little bit of me time. It's like my focus gets re-focused! Thank you so much for sharing with us at Waiting on...Wednesday!Holly @ Coordinator of Chaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03206179918616313325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-8443804791298531822015-10-18T20:29:32.677-04:002015-10-18T20:29:32.677-04:00Thank you, Jessica...it's so nice to hear from...Thank you, Jessica...it's so nice to hear from you again! I am "amening" all your smart ideas! I love the point you make that mom alone-time doesn't have to be a week away on a luxury vacation. Even a few minutes on a regular basis can recharge our batteries so we can power up for the next thing! Thanks so much for stopping by!Elizabeth Spencerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14323422138353699587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-59689961673460640242015-10-18T20:26:20.951-04:002015-10-18T20:26:20.951-04:00Yes indeed, Leigh! Your "air to breath" ...Yes indeed, Leigh! Your "air to breath" comment reminds me of that other motherhood analogy we've all heard: the old "put on your own oxygen mask before you help someone else" comparison. :) Thank you for taking time to stop by and to comment!Elizabeth Spencerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14323422138353699587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-84038158048808032912015-10-18T19:49:07.852-04:002015-10-18T19:49:07.852-04:00Great post! I try to find "me time" as ...Great post! I try to find "me time" as often as possible - without the guilt. I used to be a huge concert-goer but it's so hard to go back to that after 2 kids who don't sleep in! So now I do less "bar concerts" (that don't start til 10) and more "theatre" or "arena" concerts, but they cost so much more! I find it's baby steps a lot of the time. I'll go get a salon haircut in the evening after work (which I love and they do mini massages and all that) and leave hubby to feed and bed the kids - or maybe just the youngest; or I'll grab a coffee with a friend once a month without our kids - always a good time; and I always love a good walk, just me and my music and the open road. There are a lot of things us moms can "sneak" in for some alone time (or grownup time) without feeling guilty - especially if there's a spouse around to get some one-on-one time with the kids that they don't usually get either!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12291297826145052266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-22468258795085329222015-10-17T11:18:26.917-04:002015-10-17T11:18:26.917-04:00This is so true. It's like air to breathe. We ...This is so true. It's like air to breathe. We all need it. Leigh Powell Hineshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13271217245421014771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-41804636464205951902015-10-16T15:44:02.624-04:002015-10-16T15:44:02.624-04:00Way to go, Lissette! Those 2 hours are probably fu...Way to go, Lissette! Those 2 hours are probably fueling you up for for the other 22 in your day! ;) No guilt, mama...not on this. Thanks so much for taking time to stop by!Elizabeth Spencerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14323422138353699587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-22205392350774207902015-10-16T11:13:15.420-04:002015-10-16T11:13:15.420-04:00I would feel so guilty about wanting some me time ...I would feel so guilty about wanting some me time that it took a *really long time* for me to actually demand my own time. I finally decided at one point to drop everything that needed to be done and take some time for me during my son's nap time. Those 2 hours are the only 2 hours I get to do whatever I want without interruption. Everything else can wait! Found via #ThisIsHowWeRoll<br />Lissettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06866692752099992932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-25446791325788748662015-10-15T22:49:27.367-04:002015-10-15T22:49:27.367-04:00Classic! What a great story about your daughter......Classic! What a great story about your daughter...so funny, yet illustrative of the challenge moms face trying to get some time to themselves! Thank you for taking time to stop by and to share this charming memory!Elizabeth Spencerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14323422138353699587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-1757310395278904202015-10-15T22:46:19.779-04:002015-10-15T22:46:19.779-04:00"I think maybe I feel guilty about having my ..."I think maybe I feel guilty about having my own life!" I love the way you put this, Jamie! It feels like as moms we have to balance what we used to love, what we still love, and what--in this season--we have time and other resources for. I pray you will continue to find joy in cheering on your athletes...but that at some point, you will also again be able to again nurture what you've been passionate about in the past. Thank you for stopping by...from one former flute player to another! (Although it sounds like you still play, whereas my fingers have lost since forgotten what to do! ;) )Elizabeth Spencerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14323422138353699587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-78429770336180672322015-10-15T09:22:11.644-04:002015-10-15T09:22:11.644-04:00I like number 5. I recall taking time for myself ...I like number 5. I recall taking time for myself once, while just reading a book quietly in my room. My daughter knocked on the door and said, "I will be glad when you finish having time to yourself." I could not help but laugh. anointedtodayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12032619612996754727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-89799814373873083642015-10-15T09:18:38.688-04:002015-10-15T09:18:38.688-04:00Oh #3 for me! I used to love so many things that ...Oh #3 for me! I used to love so many things that I just don't feel like I have any time for these days. We love baseball, but now I watch my kids' 4 teams and never have time to keep up with the major leagues like I used to. I love playing my flute, but have trouble finding a point with no performances in sight. I do try to make time for these things, but my heart isn't in them like it used to be. I think maybe I feel guilty about having my own life! Wonderful post.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01975142210467186932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-71414699699998897202015-10-15T07:28:22.807-04:002015-10-15T07:28:22.807-04:00That DOES sound heavenly, Robbie! Good for you: yo...That DOES sound heavenly, Robbie! Good for you: you recharged your spirit, fed your mind, and paid off some bills, all at the same time. Now, that is some #mommultitasking! :) Thanks so much for stopping by!Elizabeth Spencerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14323422138353699587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-23737735130254798592015-10-15T06:56:13.199-04:002015-10-15T06:56:13.199-04:00Yes, yes, yes! I returned my books to the library ...Yes, yes, yes! I returned my books to the library and spent an hour "reading down" my fines yesterday. It was heavenly, no interruptions. :)robbie @ use resources wiselyhttp://useresourceswisely.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9113701246699691315.post-13705712736523000062015-10-14T21:48:53.289-04:002015-10-14T21:48:53.289-04:00Amen, mama! Here's to being ignored at the gym...Amen, mama! Here's to being ignored at the gym! :) Thanks for taking time to stop by.Elizabeth Spencerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14323422138353699587noreply@blogger.com